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Estate Planning: 3 Reasons We Run the Other Way

Estate Planning: 3 Reasons We Run the Other Way

I completely understand that it feels hard to get around to completing your estate planning; it sounds about as fun as getting a root canal. With that said, I also understand that most people want to make sure that their loved ones are protected and will receive their hard-earned assets – regardless of whether they have $50,000 or several million.

Don’t let these common roadblocks stop you from protecting yourself and your family:

  1. Who Wants to Talk About Death? Discussions of death, dying, and illness – money and family – wills and trusts – make many folks uncomfortable. Of course, that’s normal, but don’t let a few minutes of feeling uncomfortable stop you from taking care of yourself and your loved ones.
  2. This Isn’t a Good Time. Everyone is busy. I understand that you may not have a lot of downtime, but there’s never going to be a better time. It does not take too much time to complete your planning. Call my office, get on the calendar, and get it done.
  3. It’s confusing. Estate planning is documented in legal documents, your finances are discussed, and the law is analyzed. It’s very common feel uncomfortable since this is new to you. If that’s what you are thinking, you are not I will translate complex legal concepts into everyday layman’s terms for you so you will not be confused or overwhelmed.

The truth is that estate planning isn’t really that bad. With my assistance, your estate planning will be completed smoothly. I will chat with you about your goals and concerns, analyze your family and financial situation, and work with you to come up with a solid plan. You provide the information, which I always keep confidential, and I’ll take care of everything else – taking the burden off of you. Email me at Tara@Cheeverlaw.com or call me at (858) 432-3923. I look forward to serving you!

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Money Isn’t Everything in Estate Planning

Money Isn’t Everything in Estate Planning

How to Pass Your Stories and Values to the Future Generations

Money may be the most talked about wealth contained within a person’s estate, but the riches of their experience and wisdom can mean even more to family members down the line. Reinforcement of family traditions can be built into your estate plan alongside your wishes regarding your money, property, and belongings. After all, what really makes a family a family is its values and traditions — not the way its finances read on paper.

It’s an excellent idea to hold a family meeting in which you discuss the sorts of things that matter to you most. In addition to the value of sharing your wisdom, you can also make it more likely that your heirs will handle their inheritance correctly if they understand the reasons behind your choices. This is just one of the many reasons to have a family discussion about your legacy and your estate plan.

How to tell your story through your estate plan

It’s a delight to get to hear your elders’ stories of their fondest memories and wildest adventures, as well as the struggles they overcame to get the family where it is today. This wisdom provides meaning for a financial legacy that otherwise might just be viewed as a windfall. As part of your estate and legacy planning, you can decide to record your own personal history. Here are a few ways:

  • Audio files: With the broad range of audio formats available today, you can record in the way that’s easiest for you – anything from a handheld cassette recorder to the Voice Memos app on your iPhone. There are some easy-to-use digitizing services that can compile your stories into audio files to make available to your family and descendants.
  • Video files: The same goes for home movies and other video recordings. Older film formats can be easily digitized and organized along with the videos from your phone. Today’s technology also makes it easier than ever to add narration (and context) to a video, making the story all the richer.
  • Photo albums: Many families have prized photo collections that catalog generations. It’s a tragedy when something like this is lost in a fire or extreme weather event, or even misplaced in a move. Creating a digital database is a favor to your family in more ways than one: Not only will they have access to these memories at any time, they can also feel secure knowing that these family treasures won’t be lost anytime soon and that multiple copies can be made for the different branches of the family.
  • Letters and other writings: If you enjoy writing, you can also include handwritten or typed letters or stories to your family members in your legacy plan to be received and read at the time of your choosing. You can also include past letters and postcards that might be tucked away in the attic. It’s not only a personal delight to relive the memories of the past by reviewing your old letters and postcards, but it’s also a great way for younger generations to get to know and sincerely appreciate your life journey and legacy.

Passing your values to the next generation

Some estate planning strategies blend your finances and personal values. For example, we might have a discussion on some of your core values in life. Whether you feel most passionate about the need for your beneficiaries to travel and gain worldly experience, continue a unique family tradition like sailing or astronomy, or support meaningful charitable or spiritual work, I can draft trusts that contain funds specifically set aside for these endeavors.

  • Educational trusts: If you value education, you might want to set up a trust to fund undergraduate and graduate degrees, med school, study abroad, or even community classes for your family’s future generations. Because of sharp increases in educational costs within the U.S., your grandchildren will likely stand to benefit immensely from an educational trust.
  • Incentive trusts: Similar to the way educational trusts set aside wealth for the purpose of funding a beneficiary’s schooling, incentive trusts can also help steer the course of your descendants’ lives be encouraging some paths while discouraging others. For example, an incentive trust could contain instructions for disbursements to be released when the beneficiary is working a part or full-time job. Or if family vacations were an important part of your upbringing, you could set aside funds specifically for your grandchildren to experience the same wonderful tradition you enjoyed.
  • Charitable trusts or foundations: Charitable trusts or foundations establish a family legacy of supporting a particular cause, but they also have the added financial benefit of reducing income and estate taxes. They are an excellent way to help a charitable organization that’s central to your core values and make your name associated with that philanthropic effort for generations to come.

To learn more about Trusts, click here.

Are you curious about exploring a few of these options in your estate and legacy plan? Give me a call today, and we can schedule an appointment to go over your many options for showcasing your memories and values in a long-lasting way that truly benefits your heirs.

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How to Build Freedom From Court Interference Into Your Life Planning

How to Build Freedom From Court Interference Into Your Life Planning

By deciding not to complete any planning for your life and eventual death, it might be because you are too busy, do not understand the importance of such planning or think that you can do it later. You may think that it is not a big deal to have the court involved in all of your personal affairs. Perhaps you don’t know the disadvantages of court interference or have first-hand experience of what can happen in the event of incapacity or death of a family member without a properly drafted and comprehensive legal life planning “aka estate planning.”

However, if you feel that the matters of your affairs should be kept private, prefer that someone you designated make decisions in the event of your inability without court interference, and that your assets should be distributed according to your wishes privately without court fees, you are in luck. Fortunately, all it takes is a proactive approach and a small investment. By acting now, you will save an enormous amount of stress and money and give you the peace of mind to live the life you desire knowing you have security for the future.

With that said, let’s dive in to the basics of Government Interference in the event of incapacity and at death. The two of the most common situations in which the court becomes involved in your estate are conservatorship/guardianship and probate:

Guardianship and Conservatorship

A person is declared incapacitated if they are unable to effectively handle their property or financial affairs documents. In their estate plan they can direct a trusted person to carry out their wishes during such time of incapacity.   So what happens if no such documents have been drafted? Then their business becomes the government’s business, too. A court proceeding called guardianship or conservatorship (also known as “living probate”) will be held to appoint guardians and conservators to manage the affairs of the incapacitated person. Then, the guardian/conservator may need to post a bond and then comply with all of the demanding court requirements. Most importantly, the decisions of the guardian/conservator may be contrary to what you had ultimately wanted for yourself and your finances.


When an estate goes through probate, the court oversees the gathering of the probate assets, payment of any outstanding debts, determining whether a will is valid, and who the deceased’s heirs are. The proceedings ultimately determine who should receive the assets that are left after payment of debts, taxes, and costs. While this may sound straight-forward, it generally is not – to the contrary, it is often time-consuming and expensive. Also, the process of probate of public record and done for the benefit of creditors by ensuring the estate has paid its debts prior to any distributions to beneficiaries, should there be any money left after creditors are paid. If someone had a will, the Executor named may need to post Bond, which requires good credit. If that person does not have a good credit history, the Judge may not allow that person to serve and will appoint a Personal Representative, who could be a stranger to the decedent and could make decisions that are contrary to your wishes.

Staying out of Court

Probate avoidance – In order to avoid guardianship, conservatorship, and probate, you can work with me to keep your affairs out of court entirely.

  1. Powers of attorney

Agents or attorneys-in-fact are the individuals or entities you appoint to make decisions for you if you are unable due to incapacity. You designate agents or attorneys-in-fact in a document known as a Power of Attorney. A Durable Power of Attorney is a document that continues in validity after the incapacity of the maker of the document (i.e. “durable” against incapacity). Since a Durable Power of Attorney continues in validity, a Durable Power of Attorney can help bypass the need for court-appointed guardianship or conservatorship because the Agent has been nominated to make decisions, eliminating the need for a Judge.

  1. Trusts

Trusts are agreements that hold some or all of your assets. An individual or a corporate entity that you designate as your Successor Trustee will manage the assets inside of your Trust if and when you become incapacitated. Unlike wills, Trusts do not go through probate at your death because the agreement has spelled out exactly what will happen upon your death, bypassing the need for a Probate proceeding. There are several ways to structure a Living Trust and I can help you decide exactly how your Trust will be structured and how your estate will be planned.

By setting up and completely funding a Revocable Living Trust, you can accomplish two important things. First, you can rest assured that your assets will be distributed to your chosen beneficiaries and won’t go through probate upon your death. Second, you also retain the ability to change or cancel the arrangement during your lifetime enabling you to adjust your plan as your financial or family circumstances change.

Make sure your estate plan is solid and complete

Deciding on appropriate powers of attorney and drafting a Revocable Living Trust are just two of the many steps we can take together to keep your affairs free from court interference at incapacity and at death. With a solid estate plan put into place with my help, you can take comfort knowing that everything you’ve worked so hard to build and maintain will be passed along to only the people who matter most. Give me a call today to learn more about keeping your estate plan private and out of the Court’s hands.

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